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I recently read the following article published on Psychology Today, found here.

As I read the article, my head was naturally screaming EFT.

It was riddled with beliefs that you can easily tap away with EFT:

Even though my abilities are fixed, I deeply and completely love, forgive and accept myself.
Even though my ability with/in (area) is fixed. I accept how I am and how I feel.

Even though I’m anxious about…..I deeply and completely love, forgive and accept myself.

Even though I’m not good at this sort of thing. I willing choose to let this belief go now.

Even though I feel nervous about doing well. I forgive myself for holding onto this belief.
Even though I don’t believe improvement is possible for me. I accept who I am and how I feel.

There final line sums it up best:

Change really is always possible, and the science here is crystal-clear – there is no ability that can’t be developed with experience.

Over the past weekend, I was telling somebody how I’d have to work over a holiday period. They immediately responded, why don’t’ you take a break and rest? I responded even quicker. Resting will not get me: (long list of things I want).

This is in some way shape or form is the belief, you have to work hard to get what you want. I thought I’d tapped on this belief in all its guises. It really set me up for a really interesting day. Am I working and trying too hard to get what I want?

Then the doubts started showing up (love it). Yet, if I’m not working towards what I want, how will I get what I want? Ah, the dreaded “how tos!” What’s really behind all of this? Do I not believe I can get it just because I’ve asked for it?

Are you resisting what you want too?

Even though I’m resisting getting what I want. I choose to let this belief go as it no longer supports me.
Even though I believe if I don’t work hard enough to get what I want, I don’t deserve it. I deeply and completely love forgive and accept myself.
Even though I don’t deserve what I want. I choose to forgive myself for holding onto this belief and anybody else who may have taught me this in anyway shape or form.

Much of this also has to do with safety and security.

Even though I’m afraid of getting what I want. I accept who I am and how I feel.
Even though it’s not safe for me to get what I want. I acknowledge who I am and how I feel.
Even though I don’t feel safe and secure getting what I want. I love who I am anyway.
Even though I’m afraid of what others will think when I get what I want. I’m not playing the victim anymore.

Yet, much is;

Even though I’m afraid to change. I deeply and completely love, forgive and accept myself.
Even though I’m afraid of changing too much. I deeply and profoundly love myself.
Even though I’m afraid of what is really on the other side of letting this go and of changing so much. I accept all of my conflicts.
Even though I’m afraid of what I’m really hiding from. I’m willingly to let this go now.

And

Even though I’m afraid to go out of my comfort zone, because I don’t know what will really happen if I do; I really need to know how everything will turn out ahead of time.  Like I always do.  I deeply and completely love, forgive and accept myself all my conflicts.  I give myself permission to change.

I think you have to start tapping on the negatives because you have to acknowledge where you are and what you’re feeling. You’re not tapping in more negative…phew. Yet, if you start tapping on the total positive opposite, i.e. I’m confident and happy. You, your mind and body go, yeah right…***** ***.  Yes, I know this is all contrary to the popular self-help literature. Yet, you’ve seen it all play out in your life. Do affirmations work for you? Does just ‘think’ positive work for you? I doubt it.

If you are ignoring what is actually going on, i.e. the negative stuff. What are you afraid or nervous of?  You’re not nervous or afraid all the time, so when are you afraid or nervous?  Since you’re not doing that pattern of behaviour all the time. You will have triggers for feeling nervous and afraid.

I’d take each as a separate entity.

Answer this simple question – I afraid of or because…. I’m anxious of or because….

List your answers. Each answer becomes a separate round.

Even though I’m afraid of ….
Even though I’m anxious of …

Take an emotional score before you tap. Then do several rounds, then retake your emotional score.

Then if you still have some emotion left.

Start,

Even though I still have some fear…
Even though I still have some anxiety…
Even though I have this remaining fear…

Do several more rounds. The important point on all the tapping is to remain on the same ‘subject’ or issue.

Then start tapping in the positive that you want. Any if, buts and maybes. You have new rounds to tap on.

Remember, this isn’t a character flaw, you’re not broken! Your negative feelings and emotions, do serve some positive purpose, even if we don’t know what it is right now.