Nov 11

EFT – I’m Afraid and You Are Too!

I recently heard whilst watching a video that if you don’t have something that you want, you’re afraid of what you want or you have a block to actually wanting it.I’m sure you’ve heard people saying you’re either afraid of failure or afraid of success.

Have you ever noticed how many of these phrases, you know and can repeat parrot fashion, but don’t do anything about?

This hit me like a tonne of bricks this week.  I’m actually afraid of what I want?   Really, me?  Mister goal orientated, vision board maker, helper of everybody – be afraid of what I say I want?  Afraid of what I’ve said I’ve wanted for as long as I can remember?

I know I can often, in certain areas of my life talk a really good game, want certain things, yet my real world results and actions don’t reflect my talk and wants.

On some level I’m happy with my current results and reality otherwise I’d do something about it right?  Perhaps I just need to find a big enough PERSONAL why, a big enough driver, PERSONAL EMOTIONAL force which will make me go out and actually do something.  I don’t like sitting where I am, but I’m not getting off my butt to go and do something about it.

Logically there are many big whys for me to do and achieve something that I want, yet those ‘social conditioned’ or socially acceptable “normally” reasons emotionally just don’t stir me to do anything.

Conversely I know I’d like to be where I want to be before I need to be there.

I’m sure I’ve thought or maybe even felt this before, yet I’ve never done anything about it before.  So began a week of me on purpose being afraid.

I literally tapped on the following:

My set-up phrase was:

Even though I’m afraid. I deeply and completely love forgive and accept myself.

That’s it. I left it as general as that in the beginning so that my unconscious mind could go where it wanted to go and begin to generalise the results and its effectiveness.  Like normal I said and tapped on the karate chop point 3 times and then moved onto the regular points.

Then on my points I said the following

EB – I’m afraid

SE – I’m afraid

UE – I’m afraid

UN – I’m afraid

C – I’m afraid

CB –  I’m afraid

TH – I’m afraid

Then I proceeded with the following:

Even though I’m still afraid, I deeply and completely love forgive and accept myself.

Then on my points I said the following

EB – I’m still afraid

SE – I’m still afraid

UE – I’m still afraid

UN – I’m still afraid

C – I’m still afraid

CB – I’m still afraid

TH – I’m still afraid

I did this for much of the first day.  A very general I’m afraid tapping.  I also interjected and used the gamut points and did full and complete rounds.

Doing this throughout the day I’m sure helped.  Stuff comes up when you’re just working.  So although you’re being general you’re feeling right there and then, what you’re thinking of changes and alters.

It also helped so that I was just playing around. What would happen as a result of this tapping?  I was detached from any specific outcome.

Anywhere I could grab a round I was off. This general non evasive, non goal orientated tapping seemed to help. I know I certainly became calmer and more relaxed. I began to worry less about specific outcomes.

Day 2

Another day of tapping I’m afraid. I started to think what or who am I actually afraid of now, in my past and in my future?  You may be an adult today, yet very often your emotional reaction is something or somebody as a result of something that happened to you as a young child.

I’m sure I even changed my tapping at one point to the following:

Set-up Phrase

Even though I was afraid of X when I was a young boy, I don’t need to behave and react like that anymore.  I deeply and completely love, forgive and accept myself.

I tapped on the points

EB –Even though I was afraid as a child.

SE – Even though I was afraid as a child.

UE – Even though I was afraid as a child.

UN – Even though I was afraid as a child.

C – Even though I was afraid as a child.

CB – Even though I was afraid as a child.

TH – Even though I was afraid as a child.

I’m sure I even tapped I was afraid as a child or I was afraid as a young boy.

I also started to think to myself, what are the goals that I keep wanting and do nothing about on a consistent basis?  What are the things I talk about, wishing, dreaming and saying I wish I had or did? Am I really afraid of these goals?

There was a list! A long list.

My set up phrases

Even though I’m afraid of X. I deeply and completely love, forgive and accept myself.

On my points I tapped:

EB –I’m afraid of X.

SE – I’m afraid of X.

UE – I’m afraid of X.

UN – I’m afraid of X.

C – I’m afraid of X.

CB – I’m afraid of X.

TH – I’m afraid of X.

This was not a time to censor my tapping or tap on things that I should tap on or tap on things that people want me to achieve. I and you should tap on YOUR OWN stuff!! Too often our goals aren’t our goals they are the goals of our parents, magazines, society.

Too often when the proverbial hits the fan, people look after themselves first, not YOU. Tapping is your time.

Yes, I’d then move onto

Even though I’m still afraid of X. I deeply and completely love, forgive and accept myself.

EB –I’m still afraid of X.

SE – I’m still afraid of X.

UE – I’m still afraid of X.

UN – I’m still afraid of X.

C – I’m still afraid of X.

CB – I’m still afraid of X.

TH – I’m still afraid of X.

As an example I spent and still spend time tapping on the following (why? – because I’m not at the level of passive income that I want)

Even though I’m afraid of earning passive income. I also started to play around with what I’m afraid of as far as passive income is concerned.  You’ll have to do the same too.

I chose each phrase as an individual round, I’d often to the basic I’m afraid of passive income, moving onto I’m still afraid of passive income.

I know I did the following:

I’m afraid of passive income.

I’m afraid of earning lots of passive income.

I’m afraid of earning £X per month of passive income.

I’m afraid of receiving lots of passive income.

Day 3

I started to notice today that I feel different.  I feel more relaxed about myself, work, people around me.  So something is changing.  This is the really power of tapping I think.  I, you, can still not be very specific in your tapping and still get really results.

My self-talk, internal dialogue changed too.  When was the last time you stood in front of the mirror, looked at yourself and said ‘I love you’?  Or when was the last time you said to yourself – I love my life. I have amazing life?  Or when was the last time you naturally and spontaneously said I’m gratefully for X.

They say the fastest way to get what you want is to be grateful.  So to say this unconsciously is a huge step for me.   It’s happening naturally, it’s not another forced self-help exercise.

For the rest of the week, I’ve just been playing around with I’m afraid, I started changing the word afraid to fear to something else i.e. scared.  I’ve mentioned doing this before too.

Personally I’m not sure you should expect (yes, this is my belief right now – could I tap on this too?) miracles.  Letting go of fear, is letting go of years and years of programming, socially and personally.

I’ve also realised that you might have to spend some time on this.  For me, when I catch it, I listen to my own internal dialogue. Just last night I used a different word to afraid, I used scared.  Therefore I’ll have to tap on being scared too.

Being afraid obvious emotionally resonates with me differently to being scared.

Other phrases I might want to try instead of afraid or fear are:

I’m frighted of.

I’m reluctant to.

I’m anxious about.

I’m worried about.

I’m scared of

Did you know that most of the stuff that you want to have has one purpose and one purpose only?  We have it so that the experience of having it, allows you to feel happiness.  End of job done.

Today, I was still tapping the rounds similar or the same as Day 2.  I also started to tapped on the major people in my life.  I know it sounds crazy.  As an adult I’m not frightened of my Mum and Dad etc.  Yet, as child I’m sure you were scared of your parents sometimes.

Yes,

Even though I’m afraid of my Dad.  I deeply and completely love, forgive and accept myself.

Only last night I said X scares me and I also thought why not tap on I’m actually afraid of getting what I want and I’m afraid of getting of my butt and actually doing something to get what I want.

That’s this week’s tapping!

Over to you

Do you have something that has been on your to do or goal list over and over again? Does it sound like a good idea to have this goal?  Will it make your life easier?   Yet you’re not do anything about it?

I bet on some level you’re afraid too.  If you don’t feel like doing this tapping or can’t be bothered to do it.  – THEN YOU NEED TO TAP. Say it out loud – I’M AFRAID

Admit that you’re afraid too.

Comment below.

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Oct 28

EFT Doesn’t Work

EFT_Doesn't_Work

EFT doesn’t work.You’re absolutely right it doesn’t. 

I hear this a lot.

There’s just one problem with that statement.  It’s not completely true.I’ve discovered that when people say, think and feel that EFT doesn’t work.  It isn’t the absolute concrete truth.  I’ve found out that this thought, thinking, feeling and belief can easily be shifted so that EFT DOES WORK FOR YOU

By simply asking a few questions I can easily discover where EFT does or doesn’t work for you too.

Firstly you need to realise that EFT doesn’t work is only a partial statement. i.e. if you had to draw out that statement, you’d have to put that statement in a context.  EFT doesn’t work sounds as if it’s fixed in time or it is fixed within us and fixed permanently

It’s not.
By answering a few simple questions were can reframe or change the shape, size, context of EFT doesn’t work.  By doing this we can loosen its perceived grip on you. Once you do this tapping and changing any belief, action, behaviour or feeling.

The first thing we have to do is ask a simple question

Because?

EFT doesn’t work because…. Asking this one simple word begins to flesh out this seemingly permanently fixed statement.Any answer is the right one for the person answering the question. 

It may not be an answer that you would think, feel or say if you ask the question.

Some possible answers could be:

EFT doesn’t work because my Dad said so.

EFT doesn’t work because I tried it once and it failed.

EFT doesn’t work because I didn’t get the result that I wanted.

Even the above answers are still not really clear.

What specifically did your Dad say to you and how? How did EFT specifically not work for you?  How did you know that if failed?  What result do you really want?

We can work with the 3 above statements.  Yet the more specific you can be in either side of the because equation, the more precise you can be with your questions.

Some of the questions and responses may not seem that powerful on their own.  Combine several when you are talking to somebody about EFT.  It is also worth noting that what maybe powerful for you, may not be powerful for somebody else, this is also why you should combine several of these statements and questions together.

So let’s get started..

When doesn’t EFT work for you?
How do you know that it doesn’t work for you?
What specifically in EFT doesn’t work for you?
Who doesn’t EFT work for?
What did your Dad say to you that made you think EFT doesn’t work?
How did he say that?
When did he say it?
What did you try?
How do you know it failed?
When did you try it?
What result did you specifically want that you didn’t get?
How do you know that you didn’t get the result that you wanted?
When do you want to get the result by?

How do you know EFT doesn’t work?

How do you know that you failed at EFT?

How do you know that you didn’t get the result that you want?

When you think about EFT not working for you, what do you see, hear and feel?

If I’m going to be you for a moment how do I represent that in my mind so that I’m you knowing that EFT doesn’t work.

Your Dad saying EFT doesn’t work doesn’t cause EFT to not work for you; it causes you to stay stuck
Your Dad saying EFT doesn’t work doesn’t cause EFT to not work for you; it causes you to realize you want more out of life.
What your Dad says doesn’t cause EFT to not work for you it causes you to stay stuck as that small child which you once were.
Trying EFT once and it failing doesn’t cause EFT to not work it causes you to forget how to act as a child.
Trying EFT once and it failing doesn’t mean EFT has failed; it causes you to know one more way that EFT doesn’t work for you at this time.
Not getting the result that you want doesn’t mean EFT doesn’t work for you; it causes you to notice where you are now and how far you are from what you want.
Not getting what you want doesn’t mean EFT doesn’t work for you; it causes you to look for an alternative solution to find your goal.

EFT not working isn’t caused by what your Dad said, it’s caused by believing what he said is true.

EFT not working isn’t caused by what your Dad said; it’s caused by not following the pattern properly.

EFT not working isn’t caused by what your Dad said; it’s caused by skipping the set-up phrase.

EFT not working isn’t caused by you just trying it once, it’s caused by not believe that you can or want to change. EFT not working isn’t caused by you just trying it once; it’s caused not being specific enough with the basic set-up. EFT not working isn’t caused by you just trying it once; it’s caused by you forgetting how you learned as a child. EFT not working isn’t caused by you not getting the result that you want, it’s caused by you not really know what you want.

EFT not working isn’t caused by you not getting what you want, it’s caused by you stopping before you reached your goal. EFT not working isn’t caused by you not getting the result that you want, it’s caused by you putting a time limit on when you have to get your goal by and deep down you really know you’re not ready for it, even though you say to yourself that you are.

How do you have to work each time you think like this so that EFT doesn’t work for you?
How did you work that out?
How do you have to work so that EFT will work for you?
How do you work that out?

How do you say that to yourself?

What do you say to yourself each time you think about that? How do you keep failing to think something differently?

How are you holding onto this result and not getting what you want?

What result is more important to you that the one that you’re actually getting?

Your Dad saying EFT doesn’t work does cause EFT to fail for you it causes even more possibilities
Trying once and failing doesn’t cause EFT to not work for you it causes EFT to work wonders.
Not getting the result you want doesn’t cause EFT to not work for you, it causes you to get the actual results you intended.

Do you know anything where what your Dad said caused you to get something that you want?
Has your Dad ever said something that you believed and it wasn’t true?
Have you ever tried something once and got what you want?
Have you ever done something more than once and enjoyed it?
Has you ever done EFT and had it work for you?
EFT not working is actually your protective mechanism.
Your Dad saying what he did is actually him keeping you safe as that 2 year old child.
Your dad saying what he did is actually based on his own experience of trying to change.
Your Dad saying what he did is actually him reacting to what his father said to him when he wanted to change.
Failing once is actually you behaving like an adult and not learning like you did as a child.
Trying it once and failing is actually just you finding out one way that you learn and practice.
EFT not working is because you’ve not even tried it once.
EFT not working for you is just your desire to change in more ways than one.
EFT doesn’t isn’t working because you’re not following the process as you’ve been shown. How is doing it your own way working out for you?
You have that belief so that you can blame somebody else for it not working other than yourself.
You have that belief so that you can hide behind your parents like you did as a child, instead of standing up as a true adult.
You have this belief so that you can continue hiding behind other people.
You have that belief so that you can stay save and protected, instead of going outside of your comfort blanket.
You have that belief so that you can blame somebody else for it not working other than yourself.
You have that belief so that you can stay save.
You have that belief so that you cannot see how truly powerful you really are.

You have that belief because you didn’t want to shine instead of your brother. You have that belief because you want your father’s approval.

You have that belief because your Dad was keeping you safe and secure when you were a child.  He didn’t want you to fail at anything and feel pain or hurt.

The short term consequence of holding on their belief is that you are going to remain just as stuck as you are now. The immediate consequence of this belief is not growing up as an adult.

Being stuck will lead to a truly unfulfilled life.

Not growing will keep you stuck and lonely for the rest of your life.If you don’t change now, the world around you will never change either.

That’s a really interesting map of the world, here’s why you have it, your Dad was just trying to keep you safe with the knowledge he had.

Do you find that beliefs which cause you to limit yourself from learning the skills enhance success?If all people believed that would the world be a richer place?

If I believed that would you be reading this article?For how long have you held this belief? When does this belief not make sense?

What if EFT did work for you and you got even better results than even you thought possible?

EFT not working is not the same as what your Dad says.
When has your Dad said something and you found through your own experience that it wasn’t true for you now as an adult?

Believing that will not stop your or the world from changing.
The consequences of holding on to this believe only mean it will take you longer to get the things that you truly desire.

Do you always trust in what other people say?
Do politicians always say things that don’t work out?

Yes EFT is a pile of nonsense and if it didn’t work so well I’d have nothing to do with it.It’s incredible effective in my experience even though I’ve seen it proved time and time again that it doesn’t work. My own proof is that it does work.

What do you say when somebody tells you EFT doesn’t work? Comment Below.

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Jul 21

EFT For Smoking

Would you like to quit smoking?

Would you like to stop smoking?

Are you a social smoker?

Do you secretly smoke at home or quietly leave the office for a break?

Do you hide your smoking from yourself, your friends and family?

What if you could quickly, easily and in the privacy of your own home STOP NOW!

EFT FOR SMOKING

What if you could do it all yourself? No time having to book time off work, sneak around or find somewhere who does smoking cessation sessions.   What if you could quit smoking on your own terms?

I know you like a smoke, but do you sometimes smoke too much?  Maybe you’re just bored at work and going down the pub is too easy at lunchtime.

Maybe you’re afraid to give up smoking because you don’t know what you’ll do when you are a non smoker.  I know, I know, smoking is just too easy.

What if you could easily use eft to quit smoking?  Well now you can.

Using EFT for smoking, you don’t have to go cold turkey and suffer.  You can easily and gently work through your own reasons for why you smoke.

(Secret – we don’t all smoke for the same reasons)

You don’t have to search for eft scripts to stop smoking either.  In this new program, it’s all on audio, so you can listen and tap when and WHERE it matters.  If you don’t like reading, don’t worry the audios are all available in a pdf format too.

This eft to quit smoking program contains lots of tapping rounds so you can easily following along and practice lots of tapping in the privacy of your own home.

You can now become a secret tapper.  Although once you start applying this technique to your own life and experience the wonderful results for yourself, you wont!

If you do the tapping and then have a smoke, no worries.  You can listen to one or all the mp3s again. You’re not broken!!  You’re human.  You’ll be able to use your latest experience to supercharge your own tapping rounds.  Even if you just listen to the recording again.  You’ll be tapping with a new emotion or experience.

Once you apply eft to your smoking, it will not only help you overcome your smoking addiction, whatever your reason why.

Tapping really is a skill you can use in all areas of your life.  Since you’ll not be drinking.  You’ll spend more time with your family, friends, on your career, on your health and fitness.  Really any area that is important to you.  You can use tapping everywhere.

Check out this new eft for smoking program here.

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