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I’m a typical bloke. I hate clothes and shoe shopping for myself and quite often for other people too.  Sorry Ms. EFTMagic!

I find shopping quite often a complete waste of time and excruciatingly painful. I can’t find clothes that I like. I can’t find clothes that fit.  My real pain and hate is shoe shopping.

My feet are size 6. In the UK, boys shoes stop at 5 and nearly in all shops sell men shoes which start at size a 7.  Thus you see my problem.  We are the shoes less, forgotten people. Most shops don’t have my shoe size in stock.

Normally, I have 1 pair of black shoes, 1 pair of brown shoes, maybe a pair of trainers (sneakers). That is pretty much it.

I’ll often go into a shop looking for shoes only to discover, that they don’t have any in my size or if they do I’ll have to go to the children’s section to find shoes that might fit me.  The problem is velcro shoes, big lips, tongue and spider-man motifs don’t really cut it in an office or nice restaurant. I hate shoe shopping!

Let me put this into perspective, I might get one new pair of shoes a year, if that! In fact it might be more like every 18 months to two years, when I find a new pair. Shoe shopping for me is painful to say the least. I’ve been known to fly to New York, just so that I can buy shoes. Often if I find a pair of adult size 6 shoes, I have to buy them there and then because I’m not sure when I’ll see another pair.

What Does EFT Have To Do Shoe Buying?

In EFT there is a saying: Try It On Everything. I do! Most people it seems in the EFT community tend to focus on resolving,  what for me is pretty normal and run of the mill issues for any form of healing and personal change and development technology. Stop smoking, overcoming stress, loosing weight etc.  You get the idea.  Yet, EFT is so simple and easy to use and try. You should use it on everything that you don’t like in your life. Yes, getting over something like anxiety or an illness with EFT is fantastic, yet why should it remain in the realm of average self help focus? Use it on everything!

Thus, I thought what if I use it on my hatred of shoe shopping? In the begin I used it for how I can’t ever find shoes that fit me. If I did find them, I didn’t like them or they were or too expensive or I shuddered at the price for a pair of shoes.

Even though I can’t find any shoes that fit me, I deeply and completely love forgive and accept myself.

Even though I hate shopping and really hate shoe shopping, I choose to let it go and stop holding on to this hatred and any other emotions that prevent me from buying shoes.

Even though I balk, every time I see the price of the shoes that I want, I love and forgive myself.

Not much seemed to happen when I went shopping the next time round. Yes, I did look for shoes, but nothing happened.

Then once again, over the past week, I went over a round of tapping called “Something Big” , by my friend, Margaret Lynch. You can get the exact phrasing of the round in her excellent program, The Secret of Intentional Wealth.  This is one of the tapping rounds that I use weekly if not daily. I love it. It is a great shift changer.

I normally “go through the motions” when tapping, not always feeling or fully experiencing the emotion I’m wanting to clear. Yet on Thursday. I put lots of emphasis into the words. I even played them out. One line, says you’ll be excitedly calling people. I went off a tangent and had an imaginary, out loud conversation with my best friend. He was some 100+ miles away.

I often try and force the results that I want from this round. e.g. I’m after a particular result. This time was no different. I still don’t know if that result that I wanted has happened yet or not.

On Saturday I went to a local store and just popped in on the off chance/no chance of finding shoes that might fit me. The weather here, in the UK has been shocking and I’ve no grip on the souls of my shoes. I’m sliding all over the ice. I needed new shoes. So off I went to the shoe section of the store.

Firstly, I got a shock that there were advertising shoes in my size.
Secondly, they had shoes actually in stock and on the shelves.
Thirdly, there was more than one design and they were for adults!
Fourthly, I actually liked what I saw.

Now, I had a situation that I had never ever faced before: I just didn’t know which pair of shoes to buy. This was new territory for me. I tried nearly every design they had on that was in a size 6.  The up shot was, I loved shopping for my new shoes. I bought a pair. Well that doesn’t seem that unusual. The clincher? I didn’t just buy 1 or 2 pairs.

I ended up buying 9! Yes that’s right. I bought 9 pairs of shoes. I’ve never had such fun shopping for shoes either.  I took all of them to the counter and gladly paid for all my new shoes. I was even happy with the price. I didn’t shudder or wince or anything, no negative emotion, nothing.  So, I came out of the store with 9 pairs of shoes and a grin on my face.  Genius!

Already in 2010 I’ve bought more pairs of shoes than I did in the whole of the last decade! I now have 10 pairs of shoes. This is all very new to me and I love it!

Happy Travels and Great Shoe Shopping.

A

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