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This for me is a simple one. NO!

I really think there are several things newcomers worry about:

1. Will it work for me? YES, if you give it a fair go and do the technique fully and completely, certainly in the beginning.
2. Am I doing it right? YES

First, learn the basics of the set-up phrase here or check out the videos.

Secondly, find ways to make EFT tapping a part of your everyday routine. If you miss a day or time – no worries! Chill out.

Thirdly, find set-up phrase endings that you like and ring true to you, here.

Once you have done that. What next comes up, is how do I apply it to my situation?

Firstly, forget all of the above!

Grab some paper and a pen. Write out what you think your issue is. Now, you have written your ‘essay’. Which are your emotive sentences? Find them.  Can you shrink the essay down? You want to keep your EFT tapping phrases short and sweet.

If you’re going Event though I feel A,B,C because X,Y,Z. Take each example as it’s own tapping phrase and potential of a breakthrough for you.

For me, there isn’t anything I’ve come across so far that you can’t fit it a tapping phrase.

If you’re wondering why things aren’t shifting for you. Check this post out, here. Also think how else can you describe your emotions, I’ve written about using a dictionary before, here.

Also, pretend you’re writing a letter to your dearest friend, what would you really say?  What do you really say to yourself? If you were that young child again you has all the fantasies, dreams and hopes. You know the one that doesn’t even tell them to your dearest friend, what would you really be saying?

For me, the bottom line is:

You can only do EFT wrong if you don’t do it! It’s that simple. Give it a real go and tap on everything and anything.  It still amazes me: I’ll be tapping on A,B and C. They’ll clear up, but it is X,Y and Z that I notice the really changes within me.

Happy Travels

A

According to the default Emotional Freedom Techniques Manual (here). The default tapping set-up phrase should be:

Even though I have this _____________,I deeply and completely accept myself.

As I’ve already mentioned, here. I prefer:

Even though I have this “emotion, limiting decision etc”,I deeply and completely, love, forgive and accept myself.

Credit, for this has to go to Brad Yates, he was the 1st EFTer I was introduced to. I wrote more about it here.

Since those early days, I’ve listened to and read much about EFT and more importantly I’ve applied it to my own life. I firmly believe that to be successful in applying EFT to your own life and those of others that you introduce it to. You must use it. Certainly in the beginning, you must also use it often too. Check out all the videos for examples, here.

Perhaps my biggest learning I pass on to others is: you can’t do EFT ‘wrong’. In my own opinion, the only way you can do it wrong is not by doing it. I think it is that simple. The other big piece of advice I pass onto others is. Do EFT tapping on anything and everything else that you can find.

Yes, even those things that you don’t think are related to your initial issue, challenge, want etc.

So, I’ve been playing and thinking with the set-up phrase recently. I’ve come to the following conclusion: You could use 1 phrase and one phrase if all else fails.

What is it?

Even though I believe _____________________. I choose to let this belief go as it no longer serves me.

Yes, others may be more effective and quite often are. But, When using EFT to over come your negative emotions, limiting decisions (yes, you can use it for good too!). Are these things not all socially conditioned beliefs?

Who tells you that you’re feeling angry? When did you decide that the X specific mixture of emotions and thoughts etc. = Anger? Did you magically think, mmm. this X is anger? No, you were told what you were thinking and feeling. Your parents, school, media etc. told you what to think and feel based on their own conditioning.

What if you’re trying to achieve a goal or dream. There are many ‘blocks’ : mental, emotional and physical which come up.  Yet, all things being equal these are only beliefs too. i.e.

Even though I believe I can’t afford it. I choose to let this belief go as it no longer serves me.

Even though I believe I’m feeling angry. I choose to let this belief go as it no longer serves me.

I sometimes also end the phrase I choose to let this belief go as it no longer supports me.

I also use the whole phrase as a reminder phrase as I tap on all the other points, not just as my set-phrase.

Imagine for a moment if everything which stops you or you hold on to and keep you stuck really is just a belief. If you start to let your beliefs go, how many changes large or small will you suddenly begin to notice?

If you take logical levels as a change frame work, look at how pervasive changing a belief can be for you. Changing a belief not only affects your “lower” levels. It also has the potential to affect your own identity.

Remember this, beliefs don’t and wont stick unless they serve you in a positive way.

Give it an EFT go on all and everything. I’d love to hear your own results.

Happy Travels

A

I love language. I love words.  There is something about them which I find deeply satisfying.  I can’t quite put my finger what it is but I love language and vocabulary.  Some people tell me I have a good vocabulary.

This wasn’t always the case!

At school my teachers thought I might be dyslexic.  I had to have extra English lessons at school. I hated reading. I hated being forced to read with my mother, when I was really young. I can’t say I’m the biggest fan even now, yet since I’ve left school I’ve certainly read more books than I did in school.

I much prefer listening to books, be they fiction or non-fiction.  I have always loved being told a story.  If you haven’t check out Stephen Fry reading the Harry Potter series – brilliant.

I still think my vocabulary is pretty limited, but others tell me this isn’t so.

Language is how you and I express our internal emotions verbally to others and the outside world.

But, there’s a problem.

You think you’re feeling X. You say and tap on X and nothing seems to happen.

This is where a dictionary and thesaurus can help you.

Look up the emotion or thing you are tapping on. In how many other ways can it be described?

Dictionary – http://dictionary.reference.com/
Thesaurus – http://thesaurus.com/

Itunes – Wordweb – http://itunes.apple.com/us/app/wordweb-dictionary/id309627313?mt=8

Suppose you’re tapping on the word ‘financial’.  This in itself is very vague. You can’t physically carry financial around with you. Let’s get more specific. What are you thinking or feeling?

Cash, money, budget, debt, economy, sales, profit, notes, pound, dollars, millionaire etc.

All of these words will have a different level of emotional charge for you.  Some words you may not want to even face or tap on.  These you certainly need to tap on!

What if you’re feeling angry?

affronted, annoyed, antagonized, bitter, chafed, choleric, convulsed, cross, displeased, enraged, exacerbated, exasperated, ferocious, fierce, fiery, fuming, furious, galled, hateful, heated, hot, huffy, ill-tempered, impassioned, incensed, indignant, inflamed, infuriated, irascible, irate, ireful, irritable, irritated, maddened, nettled, offended, outraged, piqued, provoked, raging, resentful, riled, sore, splenetic, storming, sulky, sullen, tumultous/tumultuous, turbulent, uptight, vexed, wrathful

You no longer have to be politically correct in your tapping. Tap on what you really think and feel.  You deserve it!

You may feel the urge to tap on all of the words that you can find, or not.  It really is your choice. However, don’t avoid tapping on a word because you feel something and don’t want to go there. This you need to tap on!

Happy Travels

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