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Getting Over a Lost Love with EFT

Andrew Wilkie — Mon, 05 Jul 2010 18:16:18 +0000

Do you still hurt and feel the pain of a break up or maybe the death of a loved one?

The lose of anybody close is really hurtful. There are no books or training to take. You don’t go to college how to learn with lose and death. It happens and then bang you have to cope as best you can.

The pain and hurt you are feeling doesn’t have to last for the rest of your life. If you let it, you’re not letting the rest of the world see the beauty you have within you.

Getting over hurt from a previous relationships was a real Champagne moment for me and EFT. It was the first time I’d had and felt a huge emotional release without tapping. I said out loud. I never want to be hurt like that again. The emotion flew out of my body. Loved it.

Everything always happens for a positive reason. You just don’t know it when you are in the thick of things. Yes, even death.

You don’t have to sit and suffer any longer. Now is the time to start living again. You are here for a big reason!

EFT will help you put your past relationship into perspective, release the pain, learn what needs to be learnt and release your hurt.

No Memory Lose

You don’t forget or lose your memories, you cut the emotional tie and hold that they have on you and your behaviour.

If you have any physical triggers that cause you to feel bad or hurt i.e. ‘our song’, presents. You can use EFT to release and let go of your emotional triggers.

Your Future Relationships

If you have any doubts about your future relationships, you can use EFT to dissolve any negative emotions, limiting decision or beliefs about what you are about to let yourself in for.

Hurtful Emotional Connection

EFT cuts the cord that connects you to your pain and hurt. If you are still emotional connected to somebody who is no longer in your life. It affects all your on going behaviour.

Forgiveness

Perhaps, EFT’s best use is in forgiving yourself and the other person for what has happened. Any painful memories, you can use EFT to let go of the pain or any emotion that you are feeling.

You can use EFT no matter how long ago your relationship ended. If you feel any negative emotions about your past relationship. EFT can work for you.

Are now going to start living again?

Get Over a Relatioship Break Up with EFT

Andrew Wilkie — Fri, 11 Jun 2010 10:13:18 +0000

Have you every been hurt in a relationship?

I know how you feel.. Boy does it hurt or at least it did for me!

Yet, thankfully I got over my pain of being hurt in a relationship with a little know technique. I did not know I was still hurting from my previous relationship until 12 years later and I used this secret technique on the other person involved

What is the secret?

The Secret is EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques)

EFT was “built for” over coming your present, past and future relationship pain and hurt. You know the pain I’m talking about : the constant thinking about the other person, hoping they are happy and at the same time dead. You can’t sleep, you can’t eat. Your stomach wants to crawl in on itself. You want the other person back so much, that even though they may have hurt you. You’d still take them back.

I was in a bar when I had my first experience of using EFT and relationship pain. Boy, was I amazed because I thought I had dealt with it all. Evidently not. The relationship was some 12 years ago.

So how can EFT help you?

Pick An Emotion

When your relationship ends. You will feel hurt, anger, sadness and guilt. With EFT you can dissolve and resolve all these emotions whether they are connected with you, the other person or events even before you were in the relationship.

Pick An Event

As you replay what went right, what went wrong. You can use Emotional Freedom Techniques to lessen the emotional charge that all these events have on you.

If you are still emotional attached to anything, a person, an event or thing. Until you let go of all your negative emotion that you have about your past relationship. Your negative emotions will significantly affect any current and future relationship that you form with other people. Even you non personal relationships will be affected.

Your Past History

Often during a relationship you’ll fight over something small. Yet you’ll feel horrific. What your feeling is partly the here and now, but also the compounding of other events just like this. Thus, the emotional level and intensity has had time to intensify. That is why it is often something very small that breaks the camels back and ends your relationship. EFT can help you overcome your past trauma.

New Relationship and Partner

Once you have let go of your old relationships. You can use EFT to attract your ideal relationship and partner, faster, quicker and with greater ease than you ever thought possible.

Do you want to be in a relationship or not?

EFT For Stage Fright

Andrew Wilkie — Wed, 09 Jun 2010 02:45:24 +0000

Forgot your lines again?

I’ve been there…you stand on the stage ready to say your lines or begin a presentation in front of an audience and you dry up, you start to sweat, look at the ceiling and all around you, all you can feel is the eyes of everybody watching you.

Does this sound familiar to you?

Don’t worry you are not alone, these famous people have also suffered from stage fright: Elvis Presley, Barbara Streisand, Meryl Streep and Sir Laurence Olivier, and these are the pros! It doesn’t have to be like that for you any more. There is a stage fright busting technique. Stage fright is just our natural flight or fright reaction kicking in. It is one of your reactions to acute stress you might notice it as an accelerated heart rate, rapid breathing and the tightening of your muscles.

How can EFT help you?

Stage Memories

Do you remember being on stage at school and starting to falter? Were you being laughed at? If you have any stage experience that didn’t go well. As you review your past stage memories, you can use EFT to resolve and dissolve any negative emotions that you may have attached to that experience.

Even though I was laughed at in school because…

Even though I forgot what to say…

Even though I…

Shyness

Maybe you hate being on your own and out there. You are use to using other people as your safety blanket. EFT is excellent at resolving self esteem and abandonment issues.

Even though I’m afraid to put myself out there in case I get it wrong…

Even though I’m scared of…

Even though my shyness is just protecting me from…

Even though I use my shyness as my safety blanket…

Audience Members

Who are you going to be performing in front of? Is it their reaction that you are afraid of? Your peers can be your toughest critics. Especially if you are involved in any way shape or form with ‘office politics’.

Even though I’m afraid what……will think of me…

Even though I’m embarrassed to be up in front of…

Physical Sensations

Maybe you don’t know what your fear is, but every time you thing about performing, your heartbeat speeds up, you start to feel tension in your legs. EFT can be used to smooth out the physical symptoms first and as you resolve those, your fear of being on the stage also dissolves.

Even though I have this fear in my…

Preparation

Maybe you doubt you have prepared enough for your performance. For whatever reason as you approach your performance deadline any nerves or anxiety that comes up you can treat with EFT. Although it will not do the preparation work for you, it will just allow you to be calm as you deliver your lines.

Even though I should have prepared more and I didn’t…

Even though I’ve failed at this in the past…

Once you are calm, you’ll be much more likely to deliver an Oscar winning performance.

Better get your acceptance speech ready!

And the Oscar Goes To?

Afraid of Commitment – EFT can Help You

Andrew Wilkie — Tue, 11 May 2010 09:38:56 +0000

Do things seem to be going really well, you want to get married and then the brakes seem to go on?

What if it isn’t him that doesn’t want to get married, it is actually you?

Have you been dreaming of getting married since you were a little girl. You know how many children you want, the dress, the cottage you are going to live in. You are already emotional involved in wanting to get married.

Even if you haven’t told him all these things. Talking to you as a guy, we all pick up on your unconscious signals.

But there is something that you can start using today… to over come all of this and more.

You might call it a fear of commitment: fear of intimacy, commitment phobia, fear of dependency or, more broadly, “intimacy issues.”

In the end, all these labels are describing the same general behaviour – a fear of becoming too emotionally invested in a relationship and making oneself vulnerable to being emotionally scarred.

There are many reasons for not committing:

Maybe you have told him that you want to get married. We hit problem no.1

He starts to think am I good enough? Will I live up to what she expects? He thinks of you as Cinderella. He certainly is not a prince charming. Or so he thinks.

Fear of Being Hurt

Both of you have been hurt in the past. Being hurt in the past will show up in your behaviour and emotions. Use EFT to get over your past hurt and emotional attachment to your past lovers. Especially any that you might have the slightest anger towards.

Even though I have this fear about getting married..

Even though I never what to be hurt like that again.

Even though getting married means

Fear of Trusting Another

Getting married will not solve all of your problems, from childhood issues with your father, huge shopping debts. Women often hide their true personalities and agendas until they are married. You’re expecting “project husband” to fix everything. Does he even stand a chance?

Even though he’ll let me down like…

Even though I can trust anyone, including myself…

Not Your “Soul Mate”

Your soul mate is a person who is nearly perfect. Basically, this amounts to a fear of interpersonal conflict. Thanks to movies, television, the media. We are all led to believe that this is possible and if we don’t find our soul mates, we’ll be a failure.

The romance section of a book store is one of the most popular – enough said. You can use EFT to attract the mate that you truly want, not the one you think you should have.

Even though I’m not sure X is the one…

Even though there is only 1 person for me and I’ve not found him…

Even though I don’ know if X is my soul mate…

Even though it should be just like in the movies…

Fear Related to Relationship Performance

For you and your partner, this is huge. From being the perfect husband and wife, to providing. What if you have issues around children and finances? EFT can be very successful in resolving emotions surrounding both.

Even though I’m afraid of being committed to X…

Even though I think I’ll miss out on someone or something…

Even though I have to be perfect and I’m not…

Even though I don’t know what I really think about children or…

Even though I don’t know what he thinks about…

Fear of Sacrifice

Does married mean commitment or compromise to you? Is it 50/50 or my way is the only way? Whatever your reasons for this position. Over come them with EFT.

Even though I’ll have to give up a part of me to get married…

Even though I’ll have to give up…

Even though I’ll have to turn into something or some one I’m not…

Even though it’s more 90/10…

The real problem is: if you don’t use EFT to let go of all your emotional baggage before you get married, does your mate even stand a chance?

Who is really afraid, him or YOU?

How Can EFT Tapping Help You With Stress?

Andrew Wilkie — Sun, 25 Apr 2010 12:37:18 +0000

Do you work in a stressful environment?

Been there done that. You wake and worry about work before you have even hit the shower. Stressing all the way to work. Your life should not be like this any more.

Did you know tranquillisers, anti depressants, and anti-anxiety medications account for one fourth of all prescriptions written in the U.S. each year?

How can EFT help you?

It doesn’t matter which type of stress you have. EFT,unlike many other approaches to stress relief dissolves the cause or causes of your stress. It does not just treat the symptoms.

By Using EFT to combat your stress, everything in your life can change emotional, mentally and physically.

With EFT you can heal any physical problems you may have first before you begin actually treating your own stress. Most illnesses, disease and physical discomfort are caused because of your own emotional discomfort and being out of balance.

With EFT you can do general stress tapping:

Even though I have this stress in my life, I deeply and profoundly accept myself.

This will help and work. If you like change to be gradual. This is the way forward. However,

The real power of EFT begins when you start being as specific as possible.

Answer this question – I feel stressed because of X. Tap on however you answered the question.

Describe you stress in as much detail as possible. The who,what,where and why. If you were to describe your stress as a physical object, how would you?

Remember you might not even call what you are feeling stress. You might call it anger, frustration, overwhelm. I’ve got a great post coming up about being stressed and calling it something else.

It doesn’t matter what you are feeling or what you call it. If you feel bad, low or anything but happy. EFT can help you.

EFT beats many other techniques hands down. Why? You can use it whilst you are experiencing stress. If you’re feeling stressed right now. Begin tapping and describe in as much detail as you can what you are feeling. You’ll begin to feel less stressed within minutes.

Warning!

EFT does not eliminate your stress forever. Sorry. You’ll always find new triggers that will cause you to be and feel stressed.

EFT allows you to quickly release the emotional reasons why stress happens to you.

Once you learn how to do EFT, you body will start to feel stressed and let go of the the stressful emotions quicker and faster all by itself. Since it learns that is what you’ll do anyway.

Yes, in case you’re wondering I get stressed too. Just because I do EFT, does not mean I live in a utopian existence.

Happy Travels

EFT Can Help You, When You Have Cancer

Andrew Wilkie — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 08:48:46 +0000

Did you know many illnesses are caused by your negative emotions and thoughts?

EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) can help lessen and in some cases even cure the apparent causes of cancer and other illnesses. I’m not a doctor. If you choose to do EFT, you do so because you want to.

I’ve seen people die and survive a variety of cancers. I don’t know if I agree with the current medical standpoints on cancer. When people I’ve known are in hospital. There never seems to be a plan. The patient just becomes a scientific pin cushion.

Of course, it’s my opinion that the medical profession is never going to like anything they have not come up with and formulated as the right or correct way of treatment or cure. We’ve seen this with many alternative methods to pill popping and chemo. Why would they? Cancer, medicine, treatment is a billion dollar industry.

Would you want to lose all that money?

With EFT if you tap on your negative emotions and all the causes that you can find. You will see a remarkable improvement in your health. This I am certain of.

With EFT you can tap on the following issues to help your immune system:

Do You Like Your Body?

By tapping on how you view your body. You’ll naturally improve how you think and feel about yourself.

Even though I don’t like how I look. I deeply and completely love forgive and accept all of me.

The Word Cancer

Cancer is just a word, yet it comes with such emotional baggage. Whatever emotions come up for you when you think about cancer or having cancer, tap on them.

Even though thinking about cancer makes me……, I deeply and completely accept myself.

Anger

What makes you angry about having cancer? Whenever you can associate or get angry about cancer, tap on that.

Even though I’m anger because I have this cancer. I’m open to letting go of this now. Even though X makes me angry. I choose to forgive myself for holding onto this and I choose to forgive those others that may have contributed to this in any way, shape or form.

Fear

Having cancer, you will be afraid of many things With EFT you can tap on all things that you’re afraid of. If you’re afraid for somebody else, tap on that too.

Even though I have this fear of not being able to look after my family. I deeply and completely accept myself. Even though I have this fear of dying all alone. I choose to believe this is not true any more.

You Like Being Ill

Granted, this is a stretch for most of you. Yet, on a deeper level you believe having cancer will get or give you something that is currently missing from your life. It is much easier to tap on what you don’t have in your life and get it rather than go down this route.

Even though I like being ill for whatever reason. I choose to allow myself to heal now.

Sadness

You’re all going to feel sad at times. You’ll want to give up. When ever you feel sad, tap on that too.

Even though I feel sad because I’ll be leaving my family. I fully accept who I am.

Guilt

What in your life have you felt or do you feel guilt about? Guilt is a really heavy emotion to carry around with you. Isn’t it time that you made peace with yourself.

Even though I feel guilty because I didn’t tell her I loved her enough. I choose to forgive myself for all my wrong doing.

Your Future

Nobody really knows what the future may hold for you. Yet, with EFT you can make it much easier on yourself.

I believe there are events, thoughts, times and reasons that trigger you into having or developing cancer (Yes, I know this is pretty much out there for most people). I also think in the same breath you can use those, times, people, event to heal yourself, prevent and get over cancer.

After all, we are all pretty much the same, yet, we don’t all develop cancer. We are at the beginning of very exciting times for all of us.

Don’t you want to do everything you can possibly do?

How EFT Can Help You Improve Your Golf Game in Minutes

Andrew Wilkie — Sat, 20 Mar 2010 05:50:04 +0000

Do you keep buying the latest gadget only to not improve your golf game?

It doesn’t matter whether you are a pitch and putter, driving ranger or 4hr walk type of golfer. There is a simple technique which takes only minutes to do that can improve all aspects of your golf game, no matter what your level.

No matter what you do to improve your golf game. There is always one thing that most of us don’t change or upgrade. That is YOU!

EFT is YOUR golfing upgrade. No matter what you want to improve about your golf game. How you think and feel about you and golf will have a direct effect to your game.

When can you use EFT for your golf game?

Before the Round

Do you sit in the club car park, talking to yourself about how your game is going to go, before you have even started? If you every find yourself telling your golf story, “oh I’ll never be able to do that”. You can use EFT to remove and dissolve any of your limiting decisions and beliefs about you and your golf game.

Even though I’m not very good at golf, I accept all of me just the way I am.

Even though I’m only a social player and not a very good one. I deeply and completely accept myself.

Tee Off

Do you have a ritual before your teeing off. Does it feel right? If your friends constantly tell you something about you and your golf game at any time. After a while you start to do and play just like they tell you, you are. Why? You want to prove them right.

Even though I panic, right before I tee off.I deeply and profoundly accept myself.

Even though I stop breathing and imagine a bad shot before I’ve even started, I’m willing to let this go now.

Wrong Shot

If at any time you make a shot as you go around the golf course. If you get angry at your inability to do something. You can remove the angry that you are feeling. Any negative emotion you have about your golf game can be got rid of with EFT.

Even though no matter hope much I try, I keep making the wrong shot, I’m choosing to be calm and confident.

Visualisation

If you practice your game when not on the golf course. Does it ‘juice’ you up? Or do you repeat the same mistakes in your head when you are going around the course? With EFT, you can really use it to play the perfect game of golf. As you do so in your mind, you’ll be playing better on the course.

Even though I’ve more interference than a bad tv set, I’m choosing to play the next game sticks shots less than today.

Warning!

If you improve too much, you regular buddies will not like it, certainly not if you are the one normally loosing. You might have to change your golfing buddies and club.

Don’t let their anger and jealousy at you becoming a better, more consistent golfer bring you back down. Then again, you wouldn’t feel guilty or start losing any more, you now have EFT to get over it.

Even though they are jealous of my new found game, I deciding to keep it anyway.

How do you improve your game?

Happy Travels

The Number One Thing Your Child Can Learn To Stop Bed Wetting

Andrew Wilkie — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 11:27:10 +0000

Does you child wet their bed every night?

My story is simple, as a young child, every time I’d head back to boarding school this would happen. It’s hell.

This isn’t just for kids, you as a parent must learn this too! Your child is going to change, you have to too.

Bed wetting can happen because of genes and many emotional factors.

If bed wetting is caused by emotional problems EFT can help.

With EFT you can use it to resolve bed wetting from a variety of angles.

Children and adults don’t always know how to say or express what they are feeling. Why not start with a very general round of tapping?

Even though I wet the bed for whatever reason, I deeply and completely love, forgive and accept myself.

With that one phrase, the child has all their bases covered…wicked!

You can then become more specific and deal with individual issues. Best of all, you can teach a child EFT and they can go away and do it for themselves. Be willing to let them do it how they want to do it, not how you think they should do it.

Letting a child do EFT for themselves allows them to use their own language and what they are feeling. Not what you or I think they should be feeling.

Some areas to cover would be:

Physical Issues.

Deal with any physical pain that you child may have 1st, then see what happens with the bed wetting.

Emotions.

Talk to your child about what they feel before and after wetting their bed. Use EFT to clear up any negative emotions they have about wetting themselves and their bed.

School Life.

Are they being bullied at school? If they are feel nervous or anxious about school,this can often show up by them wetting the bed.

Family Problems

Have you and your partner separated? Talk to your child about family life and any changes that might be happening. Children also feel separation anxiety.

Remember what your child feels and how they express it is right for them. Even if they can’t articulate what they are feeling, teach them EFT anyway and they can just tap on the feel and describe it how it is for them.

How proud is you child each night they don’t wet the bed? Don’t you owe it to them to teach them this powerful technique?

Happy Travels
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End Your Bruxism Hell With EFT

Andrew Wilkie — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 14:41:05 +0000

5 to 20 percent of adults react to stress at night by clenching their jaws and grinding their teeth (Bruxism), are you one of them?

Luckily for me, I only suffer from teeth or jaw grinding infrequently. Yet, my brother – when he is asleep. Gee, his mouth sounds like a drill bit going off. He’s had guards, seen the dentist. Yet, he still grinds his teeth at night.

Many of the causes of bruxism are all in your head and emotionally based.

EFT or Emotional Freedom Techniques can help you release all your negative emotions.

EFT works on all negative emotions. Here are some of the key ones, which appear to cause bruxism.

Stress.

Yes, this is not just one emotion, but many. By using EFT on the causes of your stress you can release those things, people and places that are causing you to feel stressed.

You can even find relief by tapping:

Even though I don’t know why I grind my teeth or Even though I don’t think I grind my teeth. Pick an ending phrase or come up with your own.

Anxiety.

70% of all bruxism is caused by anxiety. Do you have a test coming up? Whatever the cause of you anxiety, you can EFT it away. You can tap on anything and everything that you think might be causing you to be anxious.

Resentment.

EFT works really well with resentment issues. You might think of resentment as anger frustration, jealousy, or maybe even hurt.

Frustration.

By not letting go of you frustrations, you actually keep yourself where you are. You will not move forward, no matter how hard you try. What would happen if you let got frustrated by your frustration?

Even though I don’t know why I’m frustrated, what would happen if I let it go anyway

Anger.

Anger takes on so many forms. Physical, mental, verbal and emotional. EFT can and does treat all of these at any level you want.

Heartache.

This emotion is often deeply hidden under many layers. Why? Your unconscious mind thinks it is actually protecting you, by keeping this emotion hidden. What caused it. It thinks is far worse for you and it doesn’t want you to experience it again. How many times have you heard? Big boys don’t cry. Rubbish. You’re just not allowed to cry in public.

Fear.

What you think might happen rarely does. Yet, fear stops you dead in your tracks. Often it will stop you doing something before you have even done it. By removing your fear. You’ll end up doing what you want to do. Remember not starting your essay until the night before it had to be in?

What stops you from NOT grinding your teeth?
Tap Away happy people!

Happy Travels
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Break Free of Your Porn Addiction with EFT

Andrew Wilkie — Mon, 22 Feb 2010 10:58:32 +0000

Are you ashamed of your porn addiction?

I’ll tell you this, at some point in there live, most guys and many girls are.

Did you know, in 2000, 33% of clergy admitted to having visited a sexually explicit Web site.

Yet, EFT can help you, if you want to curb your ‘enthusiasm’.

How Can EFT Help?

You are addicted to pornography for a variety of reasons:

Your Relationship is Failing.

With Emotional Freedom Techniques you can resolve your own emotional problems with your relationship. Maybe you are afraid of sex.

You Don’t Like Yourself.

Do you not like looking at yourself in the mirror? With Emotional Freedom Techniques, what ever emotion stops you from looking at yourself in the mirror you can dissolve, so you can once again feel comfortable in your own skin.

Destroy Your Mouse.

EFT will allow you to find your emotional triggers that happen when you surf the web and draw you to porn websites and break them once and for all.

Do You Like Sex and Intimacy?

Scarred it will all be over too quickly? Using Emotional Freedom Techniques you can banish your own negative thoughts about sex and how good you are forever. Maybe you don’t actually like being intimate, normally because of the rubbish social and religious doctrines that most of us are spoon fed for no other reason than that is what we have always done. So it must be right.

Humiliated Of Being Addicted to porn?

With Emotional Freedom Techniques you can tap on your shame and embarrassment about being addicted to porn.

Happy Travels

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