Afraid of Commitment – EFT can Help You
May 11th, 2010 | 
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Do things seem to be going really well, you want to get married and then the brakes seem to go on?
What if it isn’t him that doesn’t want to get married, it is actually you?
Have you been dreaming of getting married since you were a little girl. You know how many children you want, the dress, the cottage you are going to live in. You are already emotional involved in wanting to get married.
Even if you haven’t told him all these things. Talking to you as a guy, we all pick up on your unconscious signals.
But there is something that you can start using today… to over come all of this and more.
You might call it a fear of commitment: fear of intimacy, commitment phobia, fear of dependency or, more broadly, “intimacy issues.”
In the end, all these labels are describing the same general behaviour – a fear of becoming too emotionally invested in a relationship and making oneself vulnerable to being emotionally scarred.
There are many reasons for not committing:
Maybe you have told him that you want to get married. We hit problem no.1
He starts to think am I good enough? Will I live up to what she expects? He thinks of you as Cinderella. He certainly is not a prince charming. Or so he thinks.
Fear of Being Hurt
Both of you have been hurt in the past. Being hurt in the past will show up in your behaviour and emotions. Use EFT to get over your past hurt and emotional attachment to your past lovers. Especially any that you might have the slightest anger towards.
Even though I have this fear about getting married..
Even though I never what to be hurt like that again.
Even though getting married means
Fear of Trusting Another
Getting married will not solve all of your problems, from childhood issues with your father, huge shopping debts. Women often hide their true personalities and agendas until they are married. You’re expecting “project husband” to fix everything. Does he even stand a chance?
Even though he’ll let me down like…
Even though I can trust anyone, including myself…
Not Your “Soul Mate”
Your soul mate is a person who is nearly perfect. Basically, this amounts to a fear of interpersonal conflict. Thanks to movies, television, the media. We are all led to believe that this is possible and if we don’t find our soul mates, we’ll be a failure.
The romance section of a book store is one of the most popular – enough said. You can use EFT to attract the mate that you truly want, not the one you think you should have.
Even though I’m not sure X is the one…
Even though there is only 1 person for me and I’ve not found him…
Even though I don’ know if X is my soul mate…
Even though it should be just like in the movies…
Fear Related to Relationship Performance
For you and your partner, this is huge. From being the perfect husband and wife, to providing. What if you have issues around children and finances? EFT can be very successful in resolving emotions surrounding both.
Even though I’m afraid of being committed to X…
Even though I think I’ll miss out on someone or something…
Even though I have to be perfect and I’m not…
Even though I don’t know what I really think about children or…
Even though I don’t know what he thinks about…
Fear of Sacrifice
Does married mean commitment or compromise to you? Is it 50/50 or my way is the only way? Whatever your reasons for this position. Over come them with EFT.
Even though I’ll have to give up a part of me to get married…
Even though I’ll have to give up…
Even though I’ll have to turn into something or some one I’m not…
Even though it’s more 90/10…
The real problem is: if you don’t use EFT to let go of all your emotional baggage before you get married, does your mate even stand a chance?
Who is really afraid, him or YOU?
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