I recently heard whilst watching a video that if you don’t have something that you want, you’re afraid of what you want or you have a block to actually wanting it.I’m sure you’ve heard people saying you’re either afraid of failure or afraid of success.
Have you ever noticed how many of these phrases, you know and can repeat parrot fashion, but don’t do anything about?
This hit me like a tonne of bricks this week. I’m actually afraid of what I want? Really, me? Mister goal orientated, vision board maker, helper of everybody – be afraid of what I say I want? Afraid of what I’ve said I’ve wanted for as long as I can remember?
I know I can often, in certain areas of my life talk a really good game, want certain things, yet my real world results and actions don’t reflect my talk and wants.
On some level I’m happy with my current results and reality otherwise I’d do something about it right? Perhaps I just need to find a big enough PERSONAL why, a big enough driver, PERSONAL EMOTIONAL force which will make me go out and actually do something. I don’t like sitting where I am, but I’m not getting off my butt to go and do something about it.
Logically there are many big whys for me to do and achieve something that I want, yet those ‘social conditioned’ or socially acceptable “normally” reasons emotionally just don’t stir me to do anything.
Conversely I know I’d like to be where I want to be before I need to be there.
I’m sure I’ve thought or maybe even felt this before, yet I’ve never done anything about it before. So began a week of me on purpose being afraid.
I literally tapped on the following:
My set-up phrase was:
Even though I’m afraid. I deeply and completely love forgive and accept myself.
That’s it. I left it as general as that in the beginning so that my unconscious mind could go where it wanted to go and begin to generalise the results and its effectiveness. Like normal I said and tapped on the karate chop point 3 times and then moved onto the regular points.
Then on my points I said the following
EB – I’m afraid
SE – I’m afraid
UE – I’m afraid
UN – I’m afraid
C – I’m afraid
CB - I’m afraid
TH – I’m afraid
Then I proceeded with the following:
Even though I’m still afraid, I deeply and completely love forgive and accept myself.
Then on my points I said the following
EB – I’m still afraid
SE – I’m still afraid
UE – I’m still afraid
UN – I’m still afraid
C – I’m still afraid
CB – I’m still afraid
TH – I’m still afraid
I did this for much of the first day. A very general I’m afraid tapping. I also interjected and used the gamut points and did full and complete rounds.
Doing this throughout the day I’m sure helped. Stuff comes up when you’re just working. So although you’re being general you’re feeling right there and then, what you’re thinking of changes and alters.
It also helped so that I was just playing around. What would happen as a result of this tapping? I was detached from any specific outcome.
Anywhere I could grab a round I was off. This general non evasive, non goal orientated tapping seemed to help. I know I certainly became calmer and more relaxed. I began to worry less about specific outcomes.
Another day of tapping I’m afraid. I started to think what or who am I actually afraid of now, in my past and in my future? You may be an adult today, yet very often your emotional reaction is something or somebody as a result of something that happened to you as a young child.
I’m sure I even changed my tapping at one point to the following:
Even though I was afraid of X when I was a young boy, I don’t need to behave and react like that anymore. I deeply and completely love, forgive and accept myself.
I tapped on the points
EB –Even though I was afraid as a child.
SE – Even though I was afraid as a child.
UE – Even though I was afraid as a child.
UN – Even though I was afraid as a child.
C – Even though I was afraid as a child.
CB – Even though I was afraid as a child.
TH – Even though I was afraid as a child.
I’m sure I even tapped I was afraid as a child or I was afraid as a young boy.
I also started to think to myself, what are the goals that I keep wanting and do nothing about on a consistent basis? What are the things I talk about, wishing, dreaming and saying I wish I had or did? Am I really afraid of these goals?
There was a list! A long list.
My set up phrases
Even though I’m afraid of X. I deeply and completely love, forgive and accept myself.
On my points I tapped:
EB –I’m afraid of X.
SE – I’m afraid of X.
UE – I’m afraid of X.
UN – I’m afraid of X.
C – I’m afraid of X.
CB – I’m afraid of X.
TH – I’m afraid of X.
This was not a time to censor my tapping or tap on things that I should tap on or tap on things that people want me to achieve. I and you should tap on YOUR OWN stuff!! Too often our goals aren’t our goals they are the goals of our parents, magazines, society.
Too often when the proverbial hits the fan, people look after themselves first, not YOU. Tapping is your time.
Yes, I’d then move onto
Even though I’m still afraid of X. I deeply and completely love, forgive and accept myself.
EB –I’m still afraid of X.
SE – I’m still afraid of X.
UE – I’m still afraid of X.
UN – I’m still afraid of X.
C – I’m still afraid of X.
CB – I’m still afraid of X.
TH – I’m still afraid of X.
As an example I spent and still spend time tapping on the following (why? – because I’m not at the level of passive income that I want)
Even though I’m afraid of earning passive income. I also started to play around with what I’m afraid of as far as passive income is concerned. You’ll have to do the same too.
I chose each phrase as an individual round, I’d often to the basic I’m afraid of passive income, moving onto I’m still afraid of passive income.
I know I did the following:
I’m afraid of passive income.
I’m afraid of earning lots of passive income.
I’m afraid of earning £X per month of passive income.
I’m afraid of receiving lots of passive income.
I started to notice today that I feel different. I feel more relaxed about myself, work, people around me. So something is changing. This is the really power of tapping I think. I, you, can still not be very specific in your tapping and still get really results.
My self-talk, internal dialogue changed too. When was the last time you stood in front of the mirror, looked at yourself and said ‘I love you’? Or when was the last time you said to yourself – I love my life. I have amazing life? Or when was the last time you naturally and spontaneously said I’m gratefully for X.
They say the fastest way to get what you want is to be grateful. So to say this unconsciously is a huge step for me. It’s happening naturally, it’s not another forced self-help exercise.
For the rest of the week, I’ve just been playing around with I’m afraid, I started changing the word afraid to fear to something else i.e. scared. I’ve mentioned doing this before too.
Personally I’m not sure you should expect (yes, this is my belief right now – could I tap on this too?) miracles. Letting go of fear, is letting go of years and years of programming, socially and personally.
I’ve also realised that you might have to spend some time on this. For me, when I catch it, I listen to my own internal dialogue. Just last night I used a different word to afraid, I used scared. Therefore I’ll have to tap on being scared too.
Being afraid obvious emotionally resonates with me differently to being scared.
Other phrases I might want to try instead of afraid or fear are:
I’m frighted of.
I’m reluctant to.
I’m anxious about.
I’m worried about.
I’m scared of
Did you know that most of the stuff that you want to have has one purpose and one purpose only? We have it so that the experience of having it, allows you to feel happiness. End of job done.
Today, I was still tapping the rounds similar or the same as Day 2. I also started to tapped on the major people in my life. I know it sounds crazy. As an adult I’m not frightened of my Mum and Dad etc. Yet, as child I’m sure you were scared of your parents sometimes.
Even though I’m afraid of my Dad. I deeply and completely love, forgive and accept myself.
Only last night I said X scares me and I also thought why not tap on I’m actually afraid of getting what I want and I’m afraid of getting of my butt and actually doing something to get what I want.
That’s this week’s tapping!
Over to you
Do you have something that has been on your to do or goal list over and over again? Does it sound like a good idea to have this goal? Will it make your life easier? Yet you’re not do anything about it?
I bet on some level you’re afraid too. If you don’t feel like doing this tapping or can’t be bothered to do it. – THEN YOU NEED TO TAP. Say it out loud – I’M AFRAID
Admit that you’re afraid too.